Have you just said yes to a proposal for marriage? This is both an exciting time and quite possibly a time filled with moments of stress planning for the big event. Today’s brides spend countless hours and dollars to make their special wedding day as magical as possible. From guest lists to venue planning, the details never seem to stop. The budget also never seems to be enough. No doubt you’ve taken advantage of the awesome deals offered by Groupon to select from the wonderful bridesmaid gifts available through Kate Spade. You understandably want to acknowledge and thank these special ladies for the role their playing in helping you celebrate your big day.
Wedding planning can turn into frenzy. It’s all too easy to get wrapped up in the myriad of details for such a large and important event. Take a few quiet moments, step back, and ask yourself how much time you’ve devoted to actually planning your marriage. While you certainly can’t plan the timing of a child, promotion or move, you can address some of the bigger issues that you will be confronted with in the first several years of your marriage. How you had frank discussions and come to agreement about finances? If one of you is a miser and the other a frivolous spender, this can present serious problems in the very near future. Decide on how you will handle your discretionary spending together. Are you prepared to move for your spouse’s career advancement? Have these hard discussions. Do you both want children? Have you agreed on how many and how soon? Parenting is equally daunting and rewarding. Have the discussion on household chores. Reality will set in quickly after the wedding and you certainly don’t want to start harboring resentments or argue about simple things that could have been addressed and resolved before they occur. Lastly, decide on how to argue. Commit to dropping superlative accusations and hurling one explicative after the next. Arguing is inevitable, but there are constructive ways to go about it.
Take the time to plan your marriage – it’s intended to last infinitely longer than your wedding.